Saturday, February 20, 2010

Physician, heal thyself!

Over the years I have found that I know much more than I give credit to myself. The only area where I had to be careful was in the timing and how I put them into action.

At a time when my first marriage was sliding into a point of no return and there were traps set about me to keep me flat out, I had to take counter measures against them. With the passing of my father I was on my own. In a way it opened up a way out. I could think of asking for divorce, a matter which my father as a Christian would have found repugnant.

I had no problem with it. Only that there was a daughter to take care of. She was, as I sensed rightly was my ex-wife’s trump card. I knew the way she was being kept in her parent’s house every weekend so I may have little chance of seeing her when I had time and leisure for it,the way the game was progressing.

I was set that I shall not allow myself to be emotionally blackmailed. My daughter was old enough to know her mind and make her wishes known. Since she was a willing tool I didn’t wish to make an issue of it.

In 1994 before I decided to marry my old pen pal whom I had not seen or heard for 23 years,  I decided her children would be my children. It was indeed the case. I could easily establish a friendly relationship with them. Because of this choice I could enjoy the best period of my life watching five of my grandchildren grow. Nothing else could match except the love and warmth I enjoyed in my marriage. Looking back I see that my mind could sense the way to effect an emotional healing. The cure was all in me.

benny

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